April Apperceptions: Five Problems With Social Media

Social media is a wonderful invention, with opportunities for networking, cross-cultural/country connections, marketing, etc. However...it also is fraught with some problems, especially for those with character weaknesses or propensities toward certain types of indiscretions.

These are the five main problems, as I see them:

1) Insensitivity: It is easier to say something harsh, rude, biased, etc. on social media because the person isn't right in front of you. You are "protected," in a sense, from their reactions. You can say what you wish--and there's no danger of an actual, full-on, in-the-same-room confrontation. That can be dangerous--we can become flippant with our words--and hurt people.

2) Unhealthy doors: Social media offers the opportunity to open doors that need not be opened--links to or recommendations of programs or videos one shouldn't be watching. Not everyone is susceptible to these waverings, of course, but those who are find a world without limit via social media. It's easy to justify watching something so-and-so is watching, especially as a teen, but not everything out there is beneficial.

3) Disconnection: People can easily fall into the trap of not connecting in "real life," with the illusion of being in a good relationship--via social media alone. Furthermore, teens who spend too much time on social media have a tendency to get "sucked in"--and it limits their interaction with their parents and family.

4) False information: Social media is full of untrue information, being touted as truth. One must be wary and astute.

5) Commiseration: Those who suffer from depression or are prone to self-harm find camaraderie with those of similar struggles. This can be a good thing, of course....but it can also be a negative element of social media--in which people with negative thought patterns reinforce each other's negativities. And that can lead to downward spirals on both sides.

• I've hurt others using social media--that doesn't mean that it's not a good tool, but it does mean I need to guard my heart so that I will seek to honor others as I use it. 
• There is much good to be gleaned from social media, and hopefully it outweighs the bad. I tend to believe that it does--since I am an avid user myself. But awareness is key, especially when it comes to adolescents and impressionable teens. 
• I believe social media can be a good way to connect with people--especially those in other states one can't see often. But it can never be a substitute for "in person." I have fallen into the trap of disconnection before--and I still have to guard against it. 
• It's important not to assume that everything others post is true; seek to validate and do your own thinking. 
• Don't allow social media to cloud your judgment  so that you cease to recognize all the good in your life. 

Social media, when used responsibly, is a great thing. But be aware of the potential problems associated with it--so that you can make the best decisions, ones you won't regret later.